Bruce Carroll (GayPatriot) weighs in on Supreme Court Gay Marriage Decision
It’s tough to be a gay conservative. I’m not complaining – it’s just true. I normally “politically identify” myself as an American first, conservative second…And I happen to be gay. But today is one of those days that really shines a light for me on being a living contradiction (in most people’s eyes).
I find myself very conflicted. I’m pleased with the outcome – though this has been an evolution for me. Yeah, I know – just like Barack Obama.
Truth is, before I started the GayPatriot blog, I wrote an op-ed about a decade ago for the Washington Blade, DC’s gay newspaper, and admitted that I was very ambivalent about “gay marriage.” I don’t remember much of the specifics of what I wrote and the article doesn’t appear online anymore. I did caution that the path toward same-sex marriage (I preferred civil unions) should be a long one and the people, not the judiciary, should decide.
I’ve been able to find only one excerpt from that op-ed:
“The backlash over gay marriage (in 2003) doesn’t come as a surprise to me. Since two-thirds of Americans (in 2003) oppose gay marriage, and the same percentage support legal protections for gays in the workplace, then why… are the radical gay groups forcing marriage down the throats of America at this time?”
As I’m sure you can guess — that didn’t make me a popular invitee to the fancy gay cocktail parties in D.C. where I lived at the time. I pointed out that before the 2004 Federal Marriage Amendment push, the gay activists were not taking the marriage issue seriously.
“We have Rosie O’Donnell who says she’s getting married in front of TV cameras merely because President Bush is opposed to it. Well, that’s one sure way for opponents to question the sincerity of the true commitment to gay marriage, isn’t it?”
And that is the point that I think has changed for me. It’s a generational change, you see. When I “came out” at age 26 in the mid-1990s, my friends and I would have laughed at anyone who suggested we have gay marriage. We were living in a subculture, separate from the mainstream, and we liked it. We also had very different concerns, as it was the peak of HIV/AIDS. My friends and I were probably the last age cohort to see friends die en masse.
And yes, the radical gay leftist groups originally didn’t talk about love and commitment. They talked about “fairness” and “getting back at the straights.” That all fell flat with me.
So it was left to a younger generation, who grew up in different circumstances than I, to lead the country on this issue. That’s the way life evolves.
Read More at IJR by Bruce Carroll